A percentage is not automatically probability
Without comparable evidence, disruption values are scenario labels for sensitivity—not calibrated forecasts.
Love and relationship planning
Proposal Scenario Calculator
Compare two proposal concepts using direct cost, travel and coordination time, an entered time value, and an explicit disruption allowance.
PROPOSAL CONCEPT CHOICE
Compare proposal concepts without collapsing every risk into price
A local private proposal and a destination production can differ in cash, time, coordination, and exposure to disruption. This calculator makes each assumption visible and creates a generalized burden for sensitivity testing—not a score of romance.
Lower modeled burden-
Scenario A burden-
Scenario B burden-
A minus B-
A time burden-
B time burden-
A disruption allowance-
B disruption allowance-
PROPOSAL CONCEPT CHOICE
Proposal concept comparison ledger
The lower generalized burden reflects only entered money, time, and disruption assumptions. The decision must separately consider consent, privacy, meaning, accessibility, and each person’s preferences.
| Scenario | Direct cost | Hours | Time burden | Disruption % | Disruption allowance | Generalized burden |
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CURRENT CALCULATION
Keep direct, time, and disruption components visible: formula, substitution, steps, and check
G = Cdirect + (Hevent + Hcoord) x Vtime + Preserve x rdisruption
For each scenario, direct cash is combined with a separately entered time preference and a disruption allowance calculated from one common consequence reserve.
HOW TO USE THIS DECISION TOOL
Compare concepts while preserving nonfinancial judgment
- Define each scenario as a complete proposal concept with the same cost boundary.
- Measure travel, event, and coordination hours instead of describing one plan as simply harder.
- Choose a time preference only for sensitivity and rerun it at zero and a higher value.
- Use disruption percentages as declared assumptions and record their evidence or uncertainty.
- Review privacy, consent, access, meaning, and fallback quality before choosing.
SUBJECT FOUNDATIONS
Five ingredients in generalized burden
- Direct cost
- Proposal-specific cash outlay.
- Event time
- Travel and proposal-day clock time.
- Coordination time
- Preparation spent booking, checking, and communicating.
- Time preference
- Entered dollar weight used only for comparison.
- Disruption allowance
- Common consequence reserve multiplied by a scenario assumption.
MODEL BOUNDARY
Keep direct, time, and disruption components visible
G = Cdirect + (Hevent + Hcoord) x Vtime + Preserve x rdisruption
For each scenario, direct cash is combined with a separately entered time preference and a disruption allowance calculated from one common consequence reserve.
DECISION DEPTH
How subjective inputs can distort the result
Time value can overpower meaning
A high entered rate may always favor the shorter plan. Review the direct-cost result and the qualitative case separately.
Fallback quality differs
A disruption at a local plan may have a strong nearby alternative, while a destination cancellation may strand sunk travel cost. Record the real fallback.
REAL USE CASES
Two concept choices
Local private proposal
Lower coordination and travel burden may better match a partner who dislikes public attention, regardless of its monetary advantage.
Destination proposal with guests
The higher burden may still be chosen because the shared setting matters, but only after travel, access, cancellation, and privacy evidence are accepted.
TERMS USED ON THIS PAGE
Scenario-analysis vocabulary
- Generalized burden
- Sum of direct cost, time preference, and disruption allowance.
- Sensitivity input
- Assumption intentionally varied to test robustness.
- Consequence reserve
- Entered dollar basis for disruption exposure.
- Coordination load
- Hours spent arranging the scenario.
- Fallback quality
- Suitability of the alternative when the primary plan fails.
- Sunk cost
- Paid amount that cannot be recovered after a change.
EVIDENCE TO RETAIN
Record the reason for every non-cash assumption
Keep scenario scope, quotes, travel and coordination logs, time-value rationale, cancellation conditions, disruption evidence, reserve basis, privacy and accessibility review, and fallback plan. Save several sensitivity runs rather than only the preferred result.
LIMITS AND EXCLUSIONS
What generalized burden cannot rank
- It cannot quantify love, commitment, consent, surprise preference, cultural meaning, or relationship readiness.
- Disruption percentages are not validated probabilities unless supported by evidence.
- The dollar value of time is subjective and not earned income.
- Dependencies, cash timing, and irreversible deposits need separate records.
RELIABLE SOURCES
References that support this page's planning boundaries
QUESTIONS SPECIFIC TO THIS DECISION
Questions about proposal scenarios
Is the lower burden scenario the recommended proposal?
It is only the lower modeled resource burden. The appropriate plan must fit both people’s preferences, consent, access, privacy, and relationship context.
How should disruption percentage be chosen?
Use scenario-specific evidence when available and test a range. Do not present an unsupported value as a forecast.
Why use one reserve for both scenarios?
A common consequence basis makes the percentages comparable. Use separate detailed loss models when consequences truly differ.
Can the time value be zero?
Yes. A zero value provides a direct-cash comparison while still displaying the raw hour differences.
Should coordination by friends count?
Include the hours when their labor is part of the plan, and separately address whether that help is genuinely committed.
What sensitivity runs are useful?
Run zero time value, a higher time value, lower and higher disruption assumptions, and revised direct costs before calling the result robust.
IMPORTANT BOUNDARY
A burden model cannot select a life decision
This calculator supports event-resource comparison only. It does not provide relationship, counseling, financial, legal, travel, safety, accessibility, or insurance advice.
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