Distance symmetry is not time symmetry
Connections, border procedures, and local transfers can give similar distances very different durations.
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Travel Meeting Comparison Calculator
Compare two meeting locations using each person’s travel cash and hours, shared destination cost, a time value, and an explicit fairness-gap weight.
MEETING LOCATION BALANCE
Compare where to meet without hiding who carries the trip
The cheapest location overall can place most of the travel burden on one person. This calculator builds a cash-time burden for each traveler at two destinations, measures the gap between them, and applies an explicit fairness weight before recommending the lower score. The fairness weight is a chosen decision rule, not a moral judgment.
Location A comparison score-
Location B comparison score-
Lower entered score-
Cash-total difference-
Location A personal burden gap-
Location B personal burden gap-
MEETING LOCATION BALANCE
Two-location cash, time, and balance ledger
A higher fairness weight makes unequal personal burden more consequential in the score. Review each person’s raw cash and hours before accepting the recommendation.
| Location layer | Cash / hours | Weight | Score contribution |
|---|
CURRENT CALCULATION PROCESS
Formula, default substitution, intermediate steps, and reconciliation
Bij=Cij+hTij; Δj=|BAj−BBj|; Sj=CAj+CBj+Lj+h(TAj+TBj)+fΔj
For each location, combine each traveler’s own cash and valued time, measure their absolute burden gap, then add total cash, total time value, and the weighted gap to the location score.
| Symbol | Meaning | Unit | Default |
|---|---|---|---|
| j | Location index | A or B | two locations |
| Cij | Traveler i cash at location j | USD | entered |
| Tij | Traveler i travel time | hours | entered |
| Lj | Shared destination cost | USD | 240; 190 |
| h | Planning value of time | USD/hour | 20 |
| Bij | Individual cash-time burden | USD-equivalent | calculated |
| Δj | Personal burden gap | USD-equivalent | calculated |
| f | Fairness-gap weight | decimal | 0.50 |
| Sj | Location comparison score | USD-equivalent | calculated |
Conversions and rounding: Convert fairness percent to decimal. Shared destination cost enters once, while each traveler’s cash and time enter separately. Preserve full precision and display scores to cents.
HOW TO USE
Compare destinations from both travelers’ seats
- Choose two feasible destinations for the same meeting window.
- Enter each person’s tax-inclusive round-trip cash separately.
- Measure both door-to-door travel times using the same boundary.
- Enter costs paid once jointly rather than duplicating them per traveler.
- Choose a visible fairness-gap weight and review sensitivity before booking.
SUBJECT FUNDAMENTALS
Five layers of a balanced location comparison
- Individual cash
- Each traveler’s own transportation expenditure.
- Individual time
- Door-to-door hours carried by that traveler.
- Shared destination cost
- Amount incurred once at the meeting place.
- Burden gap
- Absolute difference between individual cash-time burdens.
- Fairness weight
- Entered share of the gap added to the location score.
MODEL AND FORMULA
Score total resources and unequal burden separately
Bij=Cij+hTij; Δj=|BAj−BBj|; Sj=CAj+CBj+Lj+h(TAj+TBj)+fΔj
For each location, combine each traveler’s own cash and valued time, measure their absolute burden gap, then add total cash, total time value, and the weighted gap to the location score.
DEEPER DECISION ANALYSIS
Why a midpoint may still be a poor compromise
Low total cash can hide concentration
A location can be inexpensive overall while asking one person to bear most of the travel.
Fairness is not one universal percentage
Test zero, moderate, and full gap weights, then discuss what the numbers omit.
WORKED DECISION CASES
Two location outcomes
Central location reduces imbalance
The default Location B has a smaller personal burden gap and a lower full score.
One traveler volunteers extra burden
A lower fairness weight can represent an explicit one-trip agreement, provided it is freely chosen and revisited.
TECHNICAL LANGUAGE
Location comparison language
- Individual burden
- One traveler’s cash plus entered time value.
- Shared cost
- Destination expense paid once for the meeting.
- Burden gap
- Absolute difference between traveler burdens.
- Fairness penalty
- Gap multiplied by the entered fairness weight.
- Location score
- Total cash, time value, and fairness penalty.
- Sensitivity check
- Rerun with another weight to inspect decision stability.
EVIDENCE AND DATA LINEAGE
Keep comparable quotes for both people and both places
Save dated transport quotes, door-to-door itinerary estimates, local lodging or activity quotes, refund terms, and the agreed time and fairness weights. Use matching dates and booking conditions where possible.
LIMITS AND EXCLUSIONS
What the location score excludes
- Safety, accessibility, visas, caregiving, fatigue, and destination preference are not priced.
- The same time value is applied to both people.
- Delay probability, exchange rates, refunds, and loyalty benefits are not forecast.
- The fairness penalty is a chosen heuristic, not an ethical verdict.
RELIABLE SOURCES
Primary and official references for the method boundary
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Meeting location comparison questions
Why count shared cost once?
It is a destination expense for the meeting rather than one separate charge per traveler.
What does zero fairness weight do?
It compares only total cash and valued time while still reporting the raw burden gaps.
What does 100% fairness weight do?
It adds the entire individual burden gap to each location score.
Should both people have the same hour value?
This model uses one common weight for transparency; discuss separate constraints outside the score.
Can the recommended location change with the weight?
Yes. That sensitivity is useful evidence that the decision depends on the fairness rule.
Is this the same as Visit Comparison?
No. This page compares two destinations and individual burden; Visit Comparison compares two itineraries across repeated visits.
IMPORTANT NOTE
A lower score does not override a traveler’s boundary
A destination must remain acceptable to both people after current safety, entry, accessibility, health, and consent checks. Do not use the score to pressure travel.